{"id":21461,"date":"2021-08-27T13:27:19","date_gmt":"2021-08-27T13:27:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/orfeostoryweb.com\/thekchen\/?p=21461"},"modified":"2025-06-27T13:31:15","modified_gmt":"2025-06-27T13:31:15","slug":"conversations-with-my-guru-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/orfeostoryweb.com\/thekchen\/conversations-with-my-guru-1\/","title":{"rendered":"Conversations With My Guru"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>Chapter 1: Our First Meeting<\/h3>\n<h3>Introduction<\/h3>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the first of a series of stories that are reflections of experiences with my root Guru, Singha Rinpoche. To enable a certain honesty, these are written with the pen name, Tenzin. Some stories are my own experiences and some of other students.<\/p>\n<p>The traditional method of applying the Buddha\u2019s teachings to our lives can be likened to daily medicinal tonic, a slow, gradual process through listening, contemplating and meditating. But Rinpoche\u2019s methods are sometimes more like injections, or even surgery. Fast acting but possibly \u201cdangerous\u201d, both for him and the student.<\/p>\n<p>I now consider myself very fortunate to have experienced everything &#8211; from receiving a severe scolding from him to being present during difficult and frustrating situations. These have been life changing. These stories are recounted mostly to remind myself of my Guru\u2019s kindness and his unceasing motivation to benefit others regardless of his actions. (So if I ever see faults in him, may these serve as a reminder and as an antidote to my monkey mind, and hopefully yours too).<\/p>\n<h3>Our First Meeting<\/h3>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Singha Rinpoche &#8211; Lama Felix as he was known then &#8211; emerged from his restaurant kitchen where he was proprietor, in a singlet, sweaty from cooking and said, \u201cI am going to start teaching Buddhism \u201d.<\/p>\n<p>I replied, \u201cCan I come and what do I have to bring?\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBring your body, speech and mind\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>He did not look like the typical Buddhist teacher, but appearances can be deceiving. To be approachable, this was his appearance. We only realised that perhaps he was someone \u201cimportant\u201d, when we went to Kopan Monastery in Nepal with him years later and monks prostrated to him as he walked around the monastery.\u00a0 He could have lived a more predictable and simpler life as a Lama at a monastery but his teachers had told him to remain a lay person to benefit more people.<\/p>\n<p>Although his caf\u00e9 was very popular (the food was VERY good), Rinpoche was instructed by his Gurus to shut his restaurant down and start teaching. How many of us would even consider doing that? Give up our livelihood for which we have trained and start doing something with no salary just because our Guru said so?\u00a0 This was an introduction to how seriously he takes his Gurus\u2019 instructions \u2013 not be a monastic but also not have a worldly occupation. When he taught the Lam-Rim teachings about the importance of following the instructions of the Guru, we could be certain that the teaching was authentic &#8211; he is a living example after all.<\/p>\n<p>At the end of the first teaching I attended, others were giving him a white scarf to say thank you. I felt I should say thank you. But I was also very conflicted, for Buddhism was not the religion of my birth and changing religions is not trivial.<\/p>\n<p>I went up to Rinpoche and he said, \u201cyou are Buddhist inside\u201d. My worries melted and I felt a load lifted. I have experienced and heard him on many occasions say just the right thing at the right time \u2013 some of you have experienced that too, as illustrated in the book \u201cMy Guru\u2019s Words\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>All these experiences have taught me that his words are not to be taken lightly. Many of us are fortunate to spend quite a bit of time with him (unlike other \u201chigh Lamas\u201d who we might meet for a few minutes a year at best) but this also means we run the risk of underestimating the importance of his instructions and advice. I have certainly made that mistake very often and now try not to take these for granted.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tenzin<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">29 Aug 2021<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Chapter 1: Our First Meeting Introduction This is the first of a series of stories that are reflections of experiences with my root Guru, Singha Rinpoche. To enable a certain honesty, these are written with the pen name, Tenzin. Some stories are my own experiences and some of other students. 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